The Sister to Sister Walk for Biblical Femininity

 

Dear Christian Sister,

Do you wonder with great concern at the increasing influence of the society on Christian girls? Like all hell has been set loose against them and everything that defines biblical femininity trampled under. Not just that they’ve been into the ocean, but they are swimming comfortably, unaware of… or will I say indifferent to the wild animals in there waiting to swallow them up.

You really feel something has to be done to salvage these young girls, but you keep wondering… What? How?

Because come to think of it, have they been taught to embrace purity, dress modestly, exude the sweet fragrance of feminine character and values, etc? Yes, at least most of them! In the church, home, and through other formal and informal means.

A war has been raging against our young women. The truth is the battle gets hotter every day and the missiles are flying in different directions. If we don’t rise up and intentionally fight, it might strike that your dear sister (spiritual or biological), or your daughter, friend or even yourself.

I know you somehow have been affected by these anti-biblical femininity missiles. Maybe it struck you, or a dear sister or friend. How did you feel when you saw and heard how so “caught up in the world” that young sister has fallen? If you really understand the physical and spiritual consequences of such acts, I’m sure you (like me) felt bad, hurt, disappointed, and the tears flowed amidst the “why?”. In fact, it was on one of such occasions that I promised God that I will, by starting this blog, get more intentional in encouraging and equipping young women to live out biblical femininity.

Let me briefly share that painful experience with you…

Just glancing through the phone of this “Christian sister” young friend, I somehow stumbled into one of her social media pages (so unlike me). Then just scrolling through without much attention, something suddenly caught my eyes – this love-coated sensual message with a guy. Struck and curious, I decided to read through the chats then I discovered she was freely into immoral acts with this guy. You know, that one got into a sinful act is one thing; but for her, a professing Christian girl to live in the act and freely discuss it, both past and future escapades (full blown sexting), was really a height of it. I can’t fully explain the hurt I felt; but I asked the Lord to help me talk to her, and save her from that mess. He answered my prayers…

But you know that’s not the end of the battle; because the devil is not asleep, neither is he tired. Every day, he keep plotting to sway us, young women, from the beautiful design of femininity, and the gracious, blissful future God has purposed for us. That’s the reason we all have to get more intentional in encouraging and equipping ourselves to embrace and live out biblical femininity.

This doesn’t make any sense to me…

Ok, I know someone may be reading this and wondering –

• Why should one be bothered about someone else’s business, or
• Why should girls not be free to explore their lives and sexuality the way they feel like, or
• I’m already caught up in some of the acts mentioned above, so…

Well, if you really understand, or maybe even have a glimpse of the beauty, I mean the radiant (glowing) beauty that is encompassed in God’s design for femininity, and how sweetly beautiful your life will be if you obey and live it out; you’ll fight everything that wants you to compromise that.

That’s why I’m inviting you to “Join the Radiant Walk” so that together we’ll explore God’s word and equip ourselves to live out true (biblical) femininity.

But you know, the foundation to living a radiant life is – getting into a relationship with God. To do that, you have to sincerely repent from all sins. The following steps will guide you:

• A – Acknowledge that you are a sinner
• B – Believe that He can save you from all sins
• C – Confess all your sins to Him in prayers
• D – Diligently follow and obey God’s word always.

If you just did that, CONGRATULATION! Just watch and see how radiant your life will become as you continue with Him.

Now, using that word “SISTER”, let’s grab some –

Tips for the Sister to Sister Walk

• Seek for your sister: In this age of technology and “busy life” syndrome, we are most times engrossed in minding ourselves and our business. This has led to a down-turn in our relationship with others. But if we really want to stir biblical femininity among ourselves as young women, then we have to intentionally connect with one another. Call, visit, chat-up, be on the look-out for that sister friend and other young girls around you. This creates room for meaningful discussions and encouragement. Like the bible says, “iron sharpeneth iron” (Prov 27:17). I’ve been blessed with wonderful friends, and one thing that kept most of us in the Lord’s track were the visits, sleep-over’s, challenging/encouraging discussions and prayers we freely shared. I remember my sweet friend Faith, who on the eve of my departure to go serve my fatherland, slept-over in my home just to encourage and pray with me. Such concern keeps one going on some weak and discouraging days, because you know that someone cares, is praying and looking out for you. I can’t mention more of such wonderful friendships here, but a lot of experience has taught me that getting out and seeking after my sister encourages and strengthens her to stand.
• Intercede for your sister: “Our prayers may be awkward. Our attempts may be feeble. But since the power of prayer is in the one who hears it and not in the one who says it, our prayers do make a difference.” – Max Lucado. If I pray for the sister around me, and you do the same, and she does the same, in no distant time, we’ll see more young women boldly stand up to defend and live out biblical femininity. So dear friends, instead of whining and complaining and judging, and even being indifferent; let us “pray one for another” (James 5:16).
• Support your sister: No meaningful connection is established if one just appears when she thinks she has a “great sermon” to preach, and then disappears afterwards. To show that we really care, we have to support (help, assist, uphold) our sisters whenever and in whichever way we can. The bible admonishes us to “bear ye one another’s and so fulfill the law of Christ” (Gal 6:2). This could be in times of discouragement, weakness, problems, concern, difficult responsibilities, sickness, financial stress, confusion, etc. Support can be in form of – words of encouragement, prayers, as well as helping to meet their needs in tangible, practical ways.
• Teach your sister: In Titus 2: 4-5, Paul admonished the aged (older) women to teach the young women… Being older may not just be in age, but in experience, knowledge, skill, etc. Therefore, each one of us is older to someone one way or the other. We are to therefore impart such knowledge and skills (biblical, intellectual, moral, professional, etc) to others.
• Exhort your sister: To “exhort” means – to strongly encourage or urge (someone) to do something. The bible instructs us to “exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin” (Heb 3:13). In a world saturated with falsehood, bombarded at us in every corner, we must intentionally speak the truth of God’s word and challenge/urge  each other to live it out.
• Rejoice and weep with your sister: “Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep” (Rom 12:15). Our duty towards each other is summed up in one word, LOVE. Such love draws us to walk with our sisters even through “thick and thin”, laughter and tears, good and bad days… But that doesn’t imply we rejoice in evil/sin. As long as the “walk” brings glory to God in the long run, let’s keep moving.

Thank you.

I’ll love to hear from you – how else could we to to intentionally encourage young women to live out biblical femininity? Drop your comments below… Let’s speak to each other!

Remain Radiant!