In the framework of everyone (especially women) lies the desire to be valued, treated with worth and respect, and gain attention. And girl, you deserve it; you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), an awe of God’s creation.
But just like you know, an egg is usually carried with great care, while a ball is bounced up and down without much concern. Likewise, gold is got from much digging into the ground, and anyone who has to get it pays a fortune, and thereafter preserves it with eyes wide open; but sand, it is littered around, people walk over it, and no one cares about buying and keeping it.
So what makes the egg receive more tender care than the ball, after all they both have a circular shape; and what makes gold more treasured than sand, after all they are both found in the earth?
Something special about them – a unique quality that naturally attracts value and a good treat.
Now girl, there’s something that will make you get the worth, value and respect you deserve? Physical beauty? Intelligence? Money? No, not particularly! We see lots of girls with such attributes who deserve and get no respect and value.
The attribute that carries that charm is called – DIGNITY!
The Bible in Proverbs 31:25 says this about the virtuous woman – “Strength and dignity (honour) are her clothing…
This virtuous woman who’s’ “price is far above rubies” clothes herself in dignity. And that’s part of what placed that high price tag on her. Because just like you know, “the way you dress is the way you are addressed”.
Dignity, according to Merriam Webster dictionary, is the quality of being worth of honour and respect.
So you see, you don’t buy or force people to value and treat you with respect; if you are worth it, then you earn it. And that is because you are clothed in dignity.
That’s the issue with lots of young women today, especially in their relationship with men. They remove their cloth of dignity, wear desperation, and expect to be treated with value and worth.
Such exchange of dignity with desperation gets them into this up-side-down lifestyle that makes me keep asking…
Girl, Where is Your Dignity?
- When I hear stories like – “He says he is going to marry me, and I contribute to his schooling with the money I get from my little work (she’s still a young high school/secondary school leaver ooo). This week everything seems fine, then next week he runs me and my family down with words and most painfully, compares me with another girl who he says is more brilliant and smart.” But she hangs on to the ‘relationship’ ooo. Then I ask, girl where is your dignity?
- When I hear and read talks like – “a man won’t marry a girl if he hasn’t first taken her to bed so he’s sure she is ‘woman enough’”. So the long and short of the value of a woman is now summarized in bed. Hmmm… Me I just ask again, girl where is your dignity?
- When a girl, to be seen as “hot”, posts and sends nude pictures of herself around, and parades the streets in dresses that advertise every part of her body. I simply ask, girl, where is your dignity?
- When I see girls leave their schools and homes, pack their bag and body into a man’s house, and turns herself into a cook, cleaner, and an outlet for angry beatings and sexual desires. I once again ask, girl, where is your dignity?
“Whatever! But some men get attracted to me, and I get the attention I want, so…”, you might say.
Oh well, I wouldn’t dispute that.
Just like a hen would boast that a cock courts and mates with it. Is that news? A cock would want to court and mate every and any hen it sees around.
Then same ladies will tomorrow start complaining that there are no real men around, but reckless men who disregards, uses and dumps, beats them up, and all what not…
The truth is, real men (and real women) are like eagles; they don’t court hens, neither do you see an eagle hanging out with chickens.
Just like someone said, “Eagle’s don’t flock with chickens; it’s not pride, its nature. Yes!
So the point is this – real men with dignified brains in their skull – who know how to treat, value and respect women – are attracted to women of dignified beauty (inside-out).
Dignity is the charm!
So let’s talk about this woman of dignity.
A Woman of Dignity…
- Draws virtue through a constant relationship with God.
- Increases in strength (spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally)
- Guards her heart and body from defilement and immodest display
- Needless get intimidated and afraid by the life and reactions of people
- Invests in herself by studying inspiring materials and connecting with impactful people
- Teaches people how to treat her by the way she treats herself. (Find out more here)
- Yields herself to the service of God and people
Who wouldn’t be attracted to a woman like this?
“So how do I become a woman of dignity?” Good question… Let’s find out!
Becoming a Woman of Dignity
You know, most times, we are told “it’s in you” – that beauty, virtue, worth…
So a lot of people try so hard to bring out that ‘something good’ in them, all to no avail. In a bid to get that out, they even cross every sane boundary, and the result is – a further step away from DIGNITY.
Girl, the truth of the matter is, mankind lost the good in us in the ocean of SIN.
“But how do we get that good life back”, you may ask.
Our loving Saviour, Jesus, gave us a straight formula to that: “For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it” (Matthew 16:25).
How do you mean ‘lose’ your life?
Kill the “I” and “me” thing – self. Self is the root cause, the center of every life of sin.
Confess your sins and surrender your life wholly to God, He’ll cross out the “I” standing right in the center of SIN.
“And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again” (2 Corinthian 5:15).
As you afterward live for God, the seed of dignity springs forth within you, and you just keep watering and nurturing it so that it blossoms.
We who are in Christ have true fulfillment and true dignity — but it comes through our willingness to lay down those things we most want in our self-centered hearts. We lay down our dignity, our aspirations, and our dreams — but when we put those things on the altar, Christ gives them back to us a hundredfold. (Rebecca Merkle)
To crown it all – “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future” (Proverbs 31:25)
So girl, if you want a life of joy and fulfillment, put on the cloth of DIGNITY!
P.S. One area in which the dignity of women has been compromised is in the area of – Sexual Purity. Purity is no longer regarded as dignifying, but rather as dumb and dead.
But the truth is, we can give purity a voice again. Purity can still live in the life of young women of the 21st century.
How? You may ask.
Join us in a special nine (9) weeks blog series on RADIANT PURITY.
October to November, 2018. Right here on this blog.
Discussions (questions and answers) will be happening on our Facebook page. Like/follow so you won’t miss out.
P.S. Spread the word! Invite other young women to join the Radiant Purity talk.
Remain Radiant!