“So you mean you’ll get married to him without “testing?”
Yes. Why not…? (By God’s grace.) That’s the way God designed it to be.
He looked at me with this “what are you saying” attitude.
And I threw a glance that says, “why are you that surprised?!
Then he gave me this sickening analogy:
Somewhere in Lagos, they sell electronic gadgets.
They call some of those electronics “tested”… Meaning, they were tested and found working. There are other ones that have not been tested.
You just buy it and take home. Whatever outcome you find is all yours.
And guess what, the “tested” electronics are more costly than the “not tested.”
Hmmm! I couldn’t hold back the unease etched in my heart. At how people now interpret this ultimate intimacy between man and woman that God called sacred – and should only be “tested and tasted” on the marriage bed.
The world withholds nothing about making a caricature of sexuality. And if you’re not careful, you’ll rethink your stand.
I remember a married man once telling me that a friend refused to marry a girl because she said she’s till a virgin.
But listen to me, dear girl. Keep these three things in mind when the world tries to rubbish the purity you cling to. (Or if you think it doesn’t matter, read this first):
1. You are not a piece of electronic equipment to be tested and retested before marked as “qualified” to finally go home.
“19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthian 6:19-20)
You’re a temple. Your body is God’s temple. In my book “Radiant Purity” (get a FREE copy here), I discussed the implication of you being a temple. Only one priest is qualified to enter that holy of holies. After he does the initial rituals.
Solomon, the wisest man that ever lived. The man who had one thousand women all to himself. With wisdom and experience, he said this to the women of Jerusalem, “Do not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.” He repeated this advice three times in the songs to show how important it was to him – and these women. (Song of Solomon 2:7; 3:5; 8:4).
2. Your decision to “not test” is not just about you, it’s about God:
Do you love and honour God so much that you obey Him in everything? If yes, His word tells us to “flee fornication.” Any sexual relation without scriptural consummation is immoral.
He loves you. That’s the reason He says FLEE! Because, the consequences of testing range from – heartbreak, betrayal, use and dump, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, death, disappointment, loss of peace with God and man, shame, STD, ruined future.
You know, the devil won’t tell you all this when he paints the salivating picture of test and see. He didn’t tell Eve she’ll get cast out of Eden when she tastes the fruit. He just told her her eyes will be open – to know good and bad.
That’s what he also proposes when he tells you to test. So you’ll know if he (or she) is “good enough”… By what standard… If not that they’ve submitted themselves to testings… over and over.
It’s when you have the idea of two things you’ll be able to compare. No be so? The God that designed sexuality… And helped Adam and Eve figure it out… (Not to talk of the guide people have written for newlyweds.) He’ll be right there on that day to help you.
Back to what I was saying… Obey God and prayerfully watch the outcome… at the right time.
3. If you’re a Christian, the man that prefers test and see is not your kind:
Don’t beat yourself up about a man who says testing is the right way. Two can’t walk together unless they be agreed (Amos 3:3). Pray and trust God, he’ll send that special man that cherishes what you, and himself, have been saving up.
A truly godly man will not try to conquer a woman’s purity; rather, he will give his life to protect it.~Leslie Ludy
Legs crossed till “I do.” No testing!
If you’ve derailed in time past, it’s not over for you. You can start the walk of purity today. Confess and surrender to Jesus. He’ll forgive and give you the grace to walk in purity and “wait for the right time”. Yes, you can.
~ Iain Duguid
“The intensity of the waiting makes the final consummation all the more glorious.”
I’ll love to read for you. How has it been with you in your purity walk? What other myths and “talks” do you hear about saving sexual intimacy (emotional and physical) for marriage?