True Femininity Design: The Top Answers Our Mainstream Culture Missed Out

What’s going to bring women happiness, fulfillment and joy?

Why should women be made to play some specific roles; which really appear to be demeaning, tasking and attracts no accolades?

Are women equal to the men, or are we simply second class citizens; an after-thought of humanity?

Why are women not free to dress and adorn themselves the way they feel; and salting the open injury, we are told to “consider” the men while dressing ‘cos what we put on could affect them morally?

Why shouldn’t girls be free to express and explore their sexuality? Why should they be made to feel ashamed of it by telling them to “close your legs”, “zip up”, “keep yourself for that one man- your husband”.

Why shouldn’t women be all out there engrossed and lost in their careers; must we actually be “keepers at home”?

Why should the feminine gender be enforced on anyone? Don’t I have the right to choose which gender I want to belong to?

And on, and on…

Girls, you’ve heard questions and assertions around these lines, right? Not just hearing them, but maybe somehow, some of these questions and more have been stirred up in your mind.

You’re not alone. I was right there. My inquisitive mind took a tour in search of true femininity.

My Journey in Search of True Femininity

I am female and simply love being female. But more than that, I want to be my best and wholly live out true femininity. I wanted (and still want to) reach my world without my being “female” stopping me.

So I just got interested in anything that had to do with women, or was said or written by women. Books, articles, talks, biographies, anything I came across (not immoral ones of course). It wasn’t just about the career world, but also somehow, about the home.

I remember attending a professional conference in which one of the plenary lectures was to be delivered by this woman. She wasn’t able to come, but she sent a representative. However, her citation had to be read.

Numerous professional awards (national and international), various religious accolades and titles, societal positions, and a long list of other achievements; I was impressed. A woman, that’s good! I took note of her name. I’ll go find out more about her. You know, I love doing that.

I did check her up online. I discovered some other things… (story for another day). But the thing is, my findings left me with some mixed felling about the whole “baggage of success”.

As I sampled these ideas I found mainstream, more questions than answers arose, arguments, dissatisfaction… I wanted true satisfying answers and direction.

Amidst the whole ramblings, I got this startling nudge.

Who and what am I consulting for my answers? Were any of those persons making reference to God’s word?

Have I asked the creator? Have I really consulted His manual?

Yes, I am a Christian. I believe in the Almighty God, and in the fact that He “created the heaven and earth” (Gen. 1:1), and “man in His own image” (Gen. 1;26).

But it didn’t really get to me that clear answers to all those femininity questions are buried in His divinely inspired book – the Bible.

So I got into the bible. I studied it, alongside other materials based on truth from the bible.

I discovered real satisfying answers.

And you know what girl, that’s where our mainstream culture actually missed it.

Now I want to share some of those answers with you.

Biblical Answers to Femininity Questions
  • So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them (Gen 1:27). Women aren’t an after-thought of God’s creation. We are wonderfully and uniquely designed, and God has made available to us equal rights and privileges.

 

  • Unto the woman He said…” (Gen. 3:16). “And unto Adam he said… (Gen 3:17). Males and females primarily play different roles, especially in the home. That doesn’t imply any role to be superior or inferior to the other, nor should it make both parties compete, rather, they were designed to complement each other.

 

  • The aged women likewise…,That they may teach the young women to be…keepers at home… (Titus 2:3-5). The home is the primary place of responsibility of women. That doesn’t mean we do nothing else but “sit at home”. Get on with your career or anything else you do, but not definitely at the expense of your home. And as single girls, it’s time for us to learn to be “keepers at home”- From your mum, godly women around, and other godly resources. Prepare to be your best in the first profession you’ve been called to. Not like everyone MUST get married to become homemakers; but like Cheryl Forbes rightly said – To be single is not to forego the traditional “womanly” pursuits. Whether you live alone or with a husband and children, a house or apartment is still a home that requires “homemaking.” Some people see homemaking as demeaning and cheap, but it’s actually far from that. As Proverbs 31:10 rightly says, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies”.

 

  • I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works… (Psalm 139:14). Therefore, the body makeovers and gender change (sex reassignment) are simply an assault to our Creator. Woe unto him that striveth with his Maker! Let the potsherd strive with the potsherds of the earth. Shall the clay say to him that fashioneth it, What makest thou? or thy work, He hath no hands? (Isaiah 45:9)

 

  • the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price (1 Peter 3:4). The bible calls a meek and quiet spirit (humble, non-boisterous/loud) an ornament – beautifying agents. And the last time I checked, women love to be “beautiful”. So why the fuss and neglect of this “true beauty” component? Why then do women agitate against the injunction that says – “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as unto the Lord (Ephe 5:22).

 

  • What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? (1 Corinthian 6:19). Dear sis, you don’t have the right to choose what to put on and do with your body. Our guiding principle should be – In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel,… (1 Tim 2:9).Our dressing should therefore not be sensual or showy.

 

  • Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body (1 Corinthian 6:18). Abstinence from sexual relationship outside marriage doesn’t mean – free from fun, but free from fiery hurt to your body, soul and spirit.

 

  • For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God… (2 Corinth 10:4). Yes, females are being marginalized and abused in different ways in some places. But a physical fight, war and agitation wouldn’t solve the problem. Rather, the case should be first tendered to God because “the king’s heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will” (Prov. 21:1). He knows how best to handle it, and He can guide us on how to stamp it out.

 

  • And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again (2 Corinth. 5:15). If women will pursue more of God, God, God and less of me, I, self, there will be less of the fights and agitations. And not just that, the beauty of femininity will be graciously and effortlessly lived out.

So sweet girl, embrace biblical femininity, and boldly live it out. It is the core of true femininity.

N.B. This whole thing might make no sense to anyone who is not in Christ, because, “the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned” (1 Corinth. 2:14).

But this truth remains – “the foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men” (1 Corinth 1:25).

So dear friend, accept Jesus as Lord and Saviour; He loves you so much that He died to save you from sin and its consequences. He alone can bring true happiness, fulfillment and joy

Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fullness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore. (Psalm 16:11)

 

Remain Radiant!

4 thoughts on “True Femininity Design: The Top Answers Our Mainstream Culture Missed Out”

  1. This is a difficult topic to balance with today’s society. There are millions of women who work outside the home. They have to help make ends meet. Then they come home and have to cook, clean, and tend to the kids. Many men help, but the majority of the home tasks still lay at the feet of the women. Many women carry a larger burden than even a man has to do.
    I am in awe of working women who try to balance it all. They are my heroes. I personally couldn’t do it all. My home suffered when I worked. I, too, felt like the home was first. And then work. I quit and stayed home. It was the best decision I ever made. I did without a few things, but I got creative and found a way to still get what we needed.

    1. Thank you Julie! Oh yes, there are really millions of women out there working so hard to support their homes. My heart really goes out to them, and I just want to say “if you are in the center of God’s will, His grace is sufficient unto you”. And Julie, thank you for your testimony.

      In fact I learnt something striking from it – when we do it God’s way and stay in His will even if it doesn’t appear rational to the world or even ourselves at the moment, it will always be “the best decision I ever made”. Staying in God’s will could be different things for different women – for you it was quitting the job, for another it could be getting a less demanding job or changing job roles, or simply planning your self and time well so as to more intentionally manage/keep your home; or some other things for women in other seasons of life.

      To every God-centered woman out there, MORE GRACE…

  2. Love this! We have a job specifically designed to suit us and the things we love, that’s why, I believe, when people try to fall out of that design, they still have a tendency to want these essential things: someone to love them, someone to love and people to dote over (children, etc.) Thanks for the scripture!!!

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